Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to dating.
Now, there is news that Tinder is advocating that men tell the truth about how tall they are. By using a Height Verification Badge, men on Tinder are being asked to authenticate their height.
Here is something from the Tinder web site:
“It’s come to our attention that most of you 5’10ers out there are actually 5’6. The charade must stop. This type of dishonestly [sic, looks like spelling is not a strong suit at Tinder] doesn’t
just hurt your matches—it hurts us, too. Did it ever occur to you that we’re 5’6 and actually love our medium height? Did it ever occur to you that honesty is what separates humans from sinister monsters? Of course not. You were only thinking of yourself.
“Well, height-lying ends here. To require everyone under 6’ to own up to their real height, we’re bringing truthfulness back into the world of online dating.
“Introducing Tinder’s Height Verification Badge (HVB), because yes—sometimes it matters. It’s the tool we’ve had in our back-pockets for years, but we were hoping your honesty would allow us to keep it there. Our verification tool is super easy to use, and extremely hard to misuse.”
Trust in Dating Goes Both Ways
As described in my book, when I was dating, many women posted old or misleading photos as the incentive to get the first date. One woman I met told me she went to a world-class professional makeup artist and used that as her cover photo. Many others used old photos for the same reason. One woman used the photo of herself taken at her daughter’s wedding 15 years earlier.
All this fooled me. I met one woman at a restaurant and when she came though the revolving door, I had no idea who she was. She went from a blond to a brunette, from about 120 pounds to someone significantly more. I would never have picked her out of a lineup based on her online photo versus the woman who stood in front of me.
So let’s all agree on truth in dating. This may be unusual since we live in a society today where the president does not believe in truth, so why should average citizens.
Constant lying undermines the basis of any society, so it is long overdue (some would say it is even too late) to correct the practice. Maybe the Tinder height verification test is a start.