Are Relationships Disposable?

We live in a disposable society.

We regularly throw away plastic bottles, razors, pens, contact lenses, film cameras, and plastic cups. All of these can be recycled and used again toeveryone’s benefit.

But what about relationships?

Are they disposable, too?

Many couples break up and never see each other again. It’s a common story, but the break up never usually answers why he couple cannot remain friends, or better yet, why can’t they reconcile after they agree to meet and discuss their differences. In most cases, that would be the adult thing to do.

But we live in a disposable society.

In my book, I describe two relationships where the girl I was dating just stopped talking to me. Literally overnight.

Each was different, of course, but in one instance we had planned to go to dinner and she never called. Never again. I sent e-mails, and she said she was busy. When I told her this had never happened to me, she said there was not more reason to communicate. 

It was as if a death had occurred.

Very abrupt and straight-forward. Here today, gone tomorrow.

In both instances, the women had gone through bad divorces. I wondered if those past bad experiences had anything to do with how they treated me then. Did those bad events taint their future relationships?

Divorces can often drag on for many months, but the long-awaited finality of the decree means the end to any communications, unless it relates to child custody.

But without that, many divorces demand an abrupt cessation of contact. But what about dating relationships? They are different and should never create the level of animosity often present in a divorce.

But in our society, abrupt endings are common. Maybe people think it’s easier for the next relationship to start as the road down serial relationships begins.

Often this can continue for too many years, when a person wakes one day and realizes they are all alone, maybe for the rest of their lives.

But then, it’s too late.

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