How Breakups Resemble the Death of Someone Close

When people meet and become couples, they create a strong emotional bond.

For some lucky couples, this bond last for years, while for others, this bond can get broken.

When couples break up, it’s a painful event, and commonly resembles what happens when a loved one dies.

Each person in a breakup is damaged.  Given the individual circumstances, both or one will suffer emotional pain for months and possibly years.

In these cases, one or both people will be bereaved since they have suffered a loss.  “Bereaved” comes from the root word meaning “robbed.”  Losing a loved one is being robbed on that attachment.

The could will also go through a period of grief that is very individualized.  It is a form of internal emotional pain.

People will enter a period of mourning, which is an external expression of this loss.

Finally, there is a period of healing.  The difference is that in a death, there is a finality to the event.

In a dating situation, there is always the possibility of getting back together.  In my book, I note that a writer one said “The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce.”

For people over 50, I think reconciliation is the best choice since dating at that age or older is an intense emotional, financial and physical quest. People over 50 are also more aware of their own finality. With  that in mind, reconciliation is the best path. It sure beats starting out all over again.

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