Beauty is a key factor that holds the self-confidence and persona of many people together. Beauty is how we view ourselves, and it determines how other people view us. It helps the way we navigate through the world and determines how we view others and how others view us. This is what helped create the selfie-generation. No other generation worldwide in human history has never been this vain and self-important.
While it is uncertain what’s more important, the interplay between our beautiful selves and how others see us is part of a changing constellation of how we build or demolish our self-esteem.
Beauty is a not a constant. Blanche DuBois, the fading Southern belle in the 1951 film, A Streetcar Named Desire, sees her altering beauty as part of her fading aristocratic background. As this classic American film opens, it’s evident that Blanche (played by Kim Hunter) is psychologically fragile and personally awkward with her brother-in-law, Stanley Kowalski (played by Marlon Brando.)
But throughout the film’s development, Blanche is constantly aware of her looks and as the tension builds between her and Kowalski, Blanche breaks under the stain and she looks older and more fragile.
While the movie and play have become American classics (the film and its major stars won numerous Academy and Golden Globe Awards), the changing role of beauty is one element that drives the tension
and the character development forward.
While not as dramatic, women continue to value the products that can enhance their beauty. One site found that the average woman spends $15,000 during her lifetime on cosmetics, of which $3,770 is spent to purchase mascara. (Remember: the eyes are the windows to the soul.) This includes money spent on perfume, foundation, lipstick, skin care, mascara. The research also found that half of all women who buy makeup say it makes them feel more in control of situations. Why? Maybe it enhances their self-esteem.
But the same benefit that makeup provides applies to all women worldwide. About 85% of all cosmetics worldwide are bought by women who spend $382 billion on products to make them look better on the outside.
So if cosmetics affect your external beauty, and it makes you feel better and more in control, it should also improve your inner beauty. The key is to make your beauty more than skin deep.
For more stories on the trials and tribulations of beauty and online dating,
see the book “You Don’t Think I’m Beautiful.“