How we view ourselves affects our view of the world. If we put ourselves before others, we can often distort our perception of reality so others seem imperfect and wrong.
This is a hard habit to break since we have to subordinate our own desires to those of another.
But if we can learn to be more accepting and understanding, we can overcome the negative part of our personalities that prevent us from seeing others as imperfect and not worthy of our attention.
If we can make this great internal transformation and keep our egos in check (a difficult thing to do), we open more doors to more people. Great acceptance means greater opportunities to meet ta great new companion.
“…we can overcome the negative part of our personalities that
prevent us from seeing others as imperfect and not worthy of our attention.”
I once knew a professional couple with two children, who had a bad relationship. They were both lawyers. The husband was a corporate lawyer; the woman practiced more general law, and later became a stay-at-home mother. The husband worked as a trial lawyer at a major corporate law firm and had argued cases before the U.S. Supreme Court. He was trained to be critical of anyone else’s statements and could not bracket his trial training with what was expected at home. The two were constantly bickering and eventually divorced. While both were great people, his ego and critical comments made it impossible for him to turn off his intellect and ego. He eventually re-married at an older age had twins with his new wife. His ex-wife thought that was poetic justice since he would be paying for college until his 80s.