Face it: Finding someone you like at any age is a challenge.
Yet when you are past 50-years-old, time is not on your side. Due to demographics, the pool of available males is smaller than females. When you put the men through the screening processes of health and wealth, this pool gets even smaller.
So if you are a woman over 50, here are five suggestions to help you attract a better mate:
- Be honest about who you are, what you look like and what you can offer. I know women aged 65 who say they are 57 on Match.com. If you were to meet this woman in person, her real age would not be a secret, but her credibility would be wasted for life.
- Be alert to “working angels.” In the book, The Thirteen Petalled Rose, author Adin Steinsalz talks about the two kinds of angels who inhabit the four worlds in the Kabbalistic system. Some of these angels were created by G-d, while others were created as a result of man’s deeds, thoughts and actions. Be aware of your angels in your concentrated spirituality, but remember: angels can also be destructive who will work against you.
- The Old Testament speaks of 36 righteous people (the Lamed-vov) who have been illuminated with the divine spirit. These anonymous, unnoticed people prevent the world from being destroyed. These people are kind, pious and help others without the desire to receive anything in return. Their identity is a secret, but they exist. Make it your task to find one of these people who can be your soul mate forever.
- Be adventurous. It’s difficult, but it may be worth stretching your standards within comfortable bounds. People over 50 facing, or in retirement, have to make lifestyle changes to adapt. You probably did to, but don’t realize you have much more time on your hands, and few real things to do (aside from daily menial tasks.) Do something to break the routine.
- Don’t dwell on past relationships or hatred of past partners. Revenge is a negative force and always has two victims: the one seeking revenge and the person who is hated. Break this cycle. Learn to forgive.