It is also a time when many are forced to face their mistakes and shortcomings.
How do we reconcile these two powerful forces?
First, recognize that New Years is a deadline. It is the time to change the calendar, but it can be much more. For the bold and determined, it offers a chance for renewal. The challenge is to tally up your strengths and weaknesses and avoid making resolutions that are not attainable.
Here are a few modest suggestions for the new year.
- If you are looking for a mate, reflect on what is keeping you from meeting someone who can complement your life. What isn’t that happening? Is it because of things you can control? If so, you have the power to make that change quickly.
- If you have exhausted the pool of dateable men in your area, expand your search. Try a cruise or visit a friend in a different city. It may change your luck.
- Recognize that people can change, but as we get older, it becomes more difficult.
- Decide that 2018 will not be just an excuse to buy a new calendar.
- Change your priorities. Don’t waste time on making unattainable resolutions that will only aggravate you.
- Be true to your emotions. If you feel sad, be sad. Then, ask what made you sad and work to avoid it in the future.
- Recognize that there is someone for everyone. Perfection does not exist in human beings. It may exist in diamonds, but not in flesh and blood. People have an emotional core, good and bad. I’m amazed at how many women I meet who have suffered from verbally abusive husbands who degraded them and forced them to leave $2 million homes with the kids without getting any child support. That was the price they paid to keep their sanity and to preserve their family and personal dignity. Remarkable, they did not regret the decision to leave, although getting the money would have made their transitions easier.
- Recognize that you are stronger than you think. History has many examples of inspiring stories of average people who were called upon to be strong. They did not always make the news, but they were strong in many ways that were recognized by friends and family. You can be one of those people. You probably are one already, but do not even know it.